Thread: did nothing for the holidays with anyone including family
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Old Dec 30, 2010, 11:40 PM
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i have cut off contact with most of my family and my life is better for it. i have not celebrated christmas for several years now. however this year i did, but only in ways i wanted to, which included no involvement with family at all. and geez i had a wonderful time. i have never understood or grasped why people place such an emphasis on this being a time for family (but then i got a pretty crap deal in that department and realise i still have attachment problems). so at present i am making this a time for me and perhaps one day i may find joy with others (but i think it would be a "made" family eg made of friends, rather than my family of origin)
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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