Poet, You seem to think your way is the way, that no one elses opinons matter. I dont see anyone thowing away families, I was adopted by a adoptive mother that was cruel, my experience of family growing up was awful..I fought like mad to get a family of my own finding that life played another trick on me and made me infertile and I had to go through yrs of fertility treatment to get my family..I would fight fire and water for my kids and thats why I treasure my therapist because the "love" she has showed me has helped me be the best mother I can to my children, because if you think your past won't impinge on yoru children then you've a lot to learn and your 19 believe me when you have children if you do... your want the best for them..those that refuse to get help and let their "illness" take precedence over their families they are the ones I take issue with, my adoptive mother needed therapy badly but she didn't believe there was anything wrong with her, she projected all her shadows onto me from the day she got me...I adore my family but the abandoned child adores her therapist to...you seem to be stuck in what you feel and want and tell everyone your being attacked for a different view,well my post is a different view..when you've had more life experience hopefully you will see things 2 dimensional and not just through your limited life experiences..I'm sure children in the care system to do feel powerless over the therapists they have given to them but as adults we can choose...I'm nearly 50 and still working toward keeping my family prescious to me..that includes me having someone thats there for me and wants and needs nothing from me so that I can be there for those that do need and want something from me...dont talk to be about families you ain't walk a mile in my shoes...