Bpd2 - couldn't have said it better myself.

I have a great fear of abandonment/rejection. I need my boyfriend to be home when he says he will be, I need him to be able to just hold me in a caring way (Not always just sexually), I need to feel needed - so please include me in things and give me tasks. Achieving these tasks gives me a sense of accomplishment and makes me feel good.
I know we can be overwhelming - but know that this is the condition at it's worst; we don't want to have to be like that.
Some days we will just feel emotionally overwhelmed - just be there for us, ignore our ranting - it's normally not directed at you at all) and just try calm us down. Sometimes you may not even have to say anything - just be there.

Make us feel valuable. Like a bunch of flowers, a thoughtful text message, a spontaneous bath, a sign of you being porud of us.

Loving and caring for a BPD person is not easy - I commend you for making the kind of effort that you are. Personally - my boyfriend really battles to keep up with me. I know I drag him down and it makes me feel guilty; it hurts me. I know that deep down I really have a lot to offer to our relationship - to him as person; I just need someone to support and nurture me