Okay, so sometimes you CAN'T eliminate a trigger. I can't hide from my boss.

And I can't hide from my husband. He is my #1 anxiety provoker. He's newly discovered BP, and he's not under control yet. I get panick attacks coming home to him at night because I don't know what to expect. Is he manic? Is he depressed? Is he going to claim he doesn't love me and chase his grandeous dreams, or will I find him curled up on the couch crying that he doesn't deserve me? I never know what to expect. So I stress.

How do I treat a trigger I can't avoid?