Deb,
For starters, I don't think it really helps matters to call your mother every name in the book. And it doesn't help to yell at her, either. I understand life can be frustrating at times. I also understand that you have problems in your life just like the rest of us here, but that still gives you no right to act out like that. Your mom is only human, too. She makes mistakes just like the rest of us. But it seems like she loves and cares for you! I mean she's inviting family over, buying you a cake and nice things for your birthday. She cares. She doesn't HAVE to do those things for you. She does it because she loves you and cares about you. Maybe you and your mother should think about getting some type of therapy together. I'm sorry your day has been so bad, and I hope it improves. Take care..