TJ, I may have sounded fierce. I don't mean to do so. I do, though, mean to ask you to be careful about motive and careful about support for both you and your mother. It sounds like you love her very much, and I am glad for you both. But even when we love people, we don't always act in their best interests. I just want you to be careful, and I hope you will protect each other from pain. I know this is a lot to ask of someone (you) who already may have had to bear a great deal. All I can say is, no one wanted it that way.