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Originally Posted by The Poet
i dont know why this is so. i think all these issues are personal to everyone. so if i don't capitalize anything, will that help? LOL
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I would want you to express yourself. I was trying to understand.
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Originally Posted by The Poet
and this is not a judgement, its my issue and you asked, but when i see what i think people are throwing away, it kills me.
when i see people who feel their T is more important or as important as your children, grandchildren, spouse if they are decent, parents if they are decent, etc. i dont get it, because familial love is the most amazing gift that so many people take for granted.
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Thank you for sharing your feelings about this. The great thing about relationships is that they can help us to connect with ourselves. I very much agree about love in a family! This is a very precious thing. A lot of people come in and out of our lives, but family is our blood.
When I first went to therapy there were some things missing in my relationships and that was part of why I was hurting. Therapy was a place to practice relating and come to understand what I needed. I imagine there was a time when I was focused on my therapy relationship, but some wonderful things happened for me that were about me. Relating with and caring for others brings out our gifts. I like to think of them as points of light within us. My former T helped me to discover my own light and this is something that I recognize as part of myself now. Since having left therapy, I am now able to connect to those points of light and offer those gifts to those who I love. I love more freely now and my family relationships are deeper and stronger.
You were right when you said it's personal for many of us. It is to me some too. My wanting to protect my therapy relationship is symbolic of something I learned while growing up. My eldest brother is severely autistic and I would often watch my mother's gentle, loving interactions with him. We were a closely bound family and loved one another very much. There was some disdain from society toward my brother and my parents...disdain for their choice to keep my brother at home with us. There was teasing and cruel things were said by many. I learned back then that, to me, all love is sacred and should be cherished as thus. So my being protective and wanting to keep love safe (even in regards to a therapeutic relationship) has deeper meaning in my wanting to protect my family.
That is some of my story and my experience. If you are comfortable with sharing more of yours, I'd love to listen. If not, that is okay too. Take care.