Wow. That is a tough decision for you to make. When they're in the thick of it, they can really drain you dry. If he's doing illegal stuff in your house, you were right to tell him to leave, especially since you have a child to worry about.

It isn't easy is it? One one hand you love the addict, but on the other hand they can easily destroy those around them.

Have you considered going to Al-anon for support and advice? It's really easy to get into a codependent relationship with addicts.

Maybe be there limited as a friend, but as far as a romantic relationship, that may be too much for you (or anyone for that matter) to handle.

I wish you all the luck with that. I've been there.