Baltazar, I have been legally divorced for a year now. The divorce process itself can be wrenching, even when the two spouses get along OK. I would suggest not hesitating to slow down the process if you need to--if your spouse is on board with that of course. You can be separated, living separate and independent lives, etc., while still not being completely divorced. So if you can slow those legal wheels when you need to, sometimes you can avoid a lot of pain and harm, especially (but not only) when there are children.