That's a really good question. It's incredibly stressful to have to deal repeatedly with major triggers. I'm sorry that your husband is one of your biggest triggers right now. You say that his Bi Polar is newly diagnosed and isn't under control "yet". Hopefully that means he has begun treatment and that his symptoms will become much more manageable.

I hope you are getting some professional help too? Therapy, meds or both? Perhaps Couples Counseling would also be an option?

Wishing you all the very best!