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Originally Posted by sarthur1229
I did send her an email to reply to something she sent to me. She posed this statement to me and then I answered:
Therapist: The point of therapy is to face painful issues in order to feel better.
My reply: You know what I think about that? It is weird to open up to someone, and there is no consoling done. I get that there is not supposed to be any physical contact between a therapist and client. It is just awkward to sit there crying and having someone just look at you and wait for you to finish. Maybe you can explain that to me and fill me in on how that is suppose to work.
I probably will not get a response until Monday. I think that this has opened her to the prospect that I may be needing that attention. What do you think? Did I hint that I am wanting a hug or some type of comfort?
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I think you had courage to pose that question, particularly about crying. Sometime I would like to ask my T that too - what does she do if someone cries, watch them?! Part of me has this thought - I'm not going to sit there and be watched! Once though, she did tell me, when I said I felt like crying, that I could and the worst thing that could happen is that she would cry with me (she does get teary from to time)......so, maybe we sit on our respective couches, crying together, sort of!
Yes, I think you've opened the door on your desire for a hug/comfort. I approached my need/want in a sort of oblique way at first, like baby steps toward it, and my T read between the lines....