Hi sarthur,

i also had a phase when i phantasized about my therapist hugging me. I never asked him because the need to be hugged was usually gone when i sat opposite him. At the moment there is no such phase any longer.

I tried to find out what thoughts entered and dominated my mind when imagining myself asking him to hug me:

- he might be repelled by me
- i might blush
- i might be afraid i could turn into a stalker
- he might look at me with lover's eyes and say nothing at all (i couldn't bear this overwhelming feeling of weekness and vulnerability)
- he might end the therapy quickly
- he hugs me and i don't like it
- he hugs me and i behave clownish and immature and childish
- i might feel like a child hugging an adult

....

and many more.

these thoughts and phantasies are really interesting to look at. Do you also have phantasies about the "what might happen if?"