My T and I have talked about this. I need a lot of contact with T. We've had a lot of ruptures and worked through them, and that's ended up being a really important part of my therapy. T is there for me (within boundaries) both during and after his normal hours. When i am having a really bad day, he will call and talk to me on the way home. He leaves me phone messages after every session, and sometimes writes me little notes to hang on to. I feel like his heart is very open to me, like mine is (now) to his. It is a very close, caring relationship.

I asked him if he had the same kind of relationship with all of his clients, and he said he doesn't. He said that certain clients need certain things...his couples don't need the level of contact and care that I need, for example. He said depending on the issue, building a close, loving, trusting relationship might be the most important part of someone's therapy, but not in everyone's therapy (or even most people's therapy) I am one of the clients who needs the closeness.

SO. I think my T thinks that it is necessary with some clients and not so much with others. I know T still cares about his other clients...I think the whole thing is probably just quite a bit less intense/time-consuming than it is with me (or other clients like me).

Not sure if that answers your question, but it was interesting to talk to him about it.