No way on earth will T hate you for this, or for telling him about it.

You're right- this shouldn't happen just because we're female. And I'm especially sorry this happened to you, on top of everything else you've already been through.

Well done for defending your boundaries, even if it involved a shopping trolley! I know you've said you're working on being balanced and grounded, but I'd imagine you've also been working on standing up for yourself and saying no? You did well