Jazzy, I remember your postings at the time and it seeming like your T was keen to be done with it when you felt that there were so many unfinished questions about the relationship. I can't remember how long you were with your T for, or whether your relationship was a generally good one, but it does seem such a shame not to end on a good note. I do understand the wish for a fresh start, new year, new places etc., but perhaps it's worth a bit of cross-over if it means that you can salvage the healing you got from your therapy right up till the end? This seems especially important if your usual pattern has been to run from relationships where you felt uncertain or misunderstood. It's great that you can identify that you may have both misunderstood each other, and that you have hope that this can be clarified.

PS Re the nose piercing analogy, I'm on my third! I wanted one all my life, but the first two got infected because I just couldn't take care of myself or sustain it for long enough, and I had to take them out. This one's been fine for 9 months now. Maybe therapy teaches us something