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AAAAA · Jan 03, 2011, 06:13 PM

Hello taxona and welcome to PC.

You will not move forward looking over your shoulder to see where you have been. Learn from your mistakes and move on. What has been done cannot be changed.

Thirty years ago I agreed that a child have a “right” to know everything. Life and being a parent has taught me that there are many shades of gray. There is no black and white.

I’m an excellent mother, I love my kids with all of my heart and soul. I have done everything within my power to ensure that they grew up to be happy, healthy, and productive members of society. And I have been blessed with truly amazing children. We are talkers, we talk about anything and everything. That does NOT extend to specifics about our sex lives. I would never share specific details with them about mine, nor do I want to know the details of theirs.

Children take things upon themselves naturally that they should not. Divorce, financial trouble etc; adult things that really have nothing to do with them. Think for a moment the guilt associated with being told you are a product of rape, incest or just a really bad decision. Not many adults have the ability to deal with these things in a healthy way, how on earth do expect a child to?

I am truly sorry for all of the negative things that have happened to you in your life. I hope you are able to find peace. Dwelling on past mistakes made by yourself or your mother will eat you up and make you miserable. But in the end, the decision is and has always been yours. I hope you make the best possible decision for you.