I wasn't diagnosed until my children were in their teens. What I wouldn't give to have been diagnosed before they were born or when they were little. We struggled so much but I wasn't even aware of it. My son (probably both but my son more so) subconsciously would get me to be the mom that would allow him to get what he wanted, do what he wanted, etc. He just knew if he said some things, or did certain things, then he would get what he wanted, be it going to a friend's house or eating candy before dinner, getting money, etc.

My kids struggle at times due to my inconsistencies from having DID. All I ever wanted was to be a good mom, but I struggled so much, not even knowing why, that I wasn't able to be.

Thankfully we've worked through a lot of stuff and my kids are very understanding and supportive. And I'm getting better. But it can be a hard road at times.

My children have said though, that I was a good mom in that I actively participated in their lives. I wasn't a mom who would go off and do things while they played, learned, etc. From what they have said, I get the feeling that other parts of me were very much involved in their lives as well and my children have some really fond memories of that, for which I am so thankful.

I'm so glad you know now, when they are little, and have support through this. My husband was an integral part of my children's lives (until he died) and that was a lifesaver, even when I didn't know what was going on.

I think if you stick close to people who can help guide you and help you with the children, they will be okay. Awareness is good and the sooner the main part of you realizes it, the better, for the children. Good luck on your journey through this.