I hear ya, zoo, about being concerned about your ME time. It's something you will need to carve out and demand. You do deserve to be able to make a phone call without disruption. That will come with time and practice - setting and reinforcing boundaries with the kids.

I know it's easier said than done, but it will get much easier if you set the expectation now while you have this new, fresh start with them.

One step at a time, zoo....((( HUGS )))