Hello again, sorry for the delay in replying today. Whilst it's somewhat difficult for me to accept theories on my non-identity, I did approach this group for exactly that. MJ's explanation does make some sense once you've opened up your mind to the concept and allowed it to run thru a couple of times. Maybe my wife does believe we are "one" and hence the un-essentiality of using my name when addressing me. I have again discussed the "problem" with my wife revealing that I'd been on this group looking for answers. She wasn't very pleased initially, "hanging the dirty washing out in public", as she put it, but she now realises how much this has been bugging over the years that she's going to make a serious effort to make changes. In fact she called me by my Christian name so much yesterday it felt quite weird, and yet I loved it. Long may it continue.

Many thanks to all who contributed to my posting....... inner peace at last?

John