I can see it from your husband's prospective- because I am there.

There has not been something wrong with me for over (10) years. For the last (4) years I was dying of colon cancer- after several medical tests it turns out it was IBS. It was always something- and always something that I was worrying about- causing my health, mentally and physically to decline.

Now it is all the symptoms of anxiety as a result of worrying about medical tests done in March- that were clear by the way. I have worried myself into anxiety, panic attacks and depression.

I sympathize with you, I have put my wife through hell for years and she continues to stand by me- she must truly love me. It takes a huge toll on you I know- I can see it in my wife. I try to do what I can when I am feeling up to it, to do all I can to show my appreciation for her understanding. We talk alot now, about what I am feeling and how things are going with me. In absense of information, she came to some different conclusions about the reality of what I was feeling. At least now she knows and can understand somewhat. I also share what I have learned about my anxiety, so she knows what it is- and not minimize the impact of something as simple as stress and anxiousness.

I guess I am lucky to have developed anxiety problems, because it has forced me to seek help. I have to say it the man traits of being stubborn that kept me from seeking help before, psychologists and therapy were just not in my game plan, all I wanted to do was continue to worry- and now I have am forced to on my own accord, to overcome my anxiety and panic disorder symptoms.

I have to always tell my wife she was right and apologize, and that has made up for some of the ridiculous suffering I have made her go through on my health worries- that were nothing but that- my own worries.

I hope that your husband can soon realize that he needs to get some help. It may take a lot to get there- but from my confessions of being like him, it is not as easy as it seems to come to that conclusion. The worry in him keeps him going- and from obtaining help. I have a long road to recovery to come- but I am moving in the right direction I believe- and I hope your husband can soon start his journey as well.

Just know that someone sitting in your husbands position, truly sympathizes with you- and understands your suffering. Try to understand it is the uncontrollable mental issues talking, and not the husband you love, when he continues to have his issues.