I wasn't really looking for a magical match so my expectations weren't that high. Maybe that helped me not put so much pressure on the new relationship. What really influenced me to think therapy with this therapist would work is that at our first session, I got a very strong sense that he could help me with my problem(s). He had expertise in my area of need, demonstrated insight, and showed he could look beneath the surface (and I didn't even prompt him for that--he just naturally coughed up the goods). When I listened to him talk, I just felt he could help me. And I really needed help. He gave me hope, all in the space of one session. If I had met with him for 50 minutes and not gotten the sense that he could help me, I would not have gone back.

Best of luck in your search for a therapist. And welcome to PC.