I was going to say that is sounds a lot like me... the borderline part of me. I am so sorry you are going through this and it really sucks bad and I know that, but letting him have his love will only show him how much you love him. I lost my best friend for two years because I wouldn't let her have someone that I didn't agree with AND I was married, but I wanted to control our friendship - how stupid is that. Finally she came back and we are best friends again, but I lost her for two years. This is all so hard at times!