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Originally Posted by abaca01
I am going through a really rough time in my life right now, even worse then usual so excause my negitivity, but I have three children and everyday I wish I would have never had any. I try so hard to not do to them what my mom did to me, and I want them to be normal. I dont think love them the way a parent should love there children. If i could go back I would have never had any. Its not fair to them, I want them to have the best life and I feel like Im just passing on the BPD curse to them. Just my opinion and my life everyone is different.
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Abaca, I am sorry you're going through a rough time in your life. I am convinced that my mother is BPD and narcissistic in which case she definitely passed the BPD to me. But I must say that superficially, the difference I see between my mother and you is your own recognition that you have difficulties and that you're working on them. My mother has always been in denial and chose rather to blame others, including me. Not knowing your children, I think they would recognize you admit to your shortcomings and that you are doing your best to raise them. I think that is love.