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Thanks so much for your input and listening to my rant. The way he sees it he’s going to be in pain no matter what he does so he might as well do what he wants. Some days I just want to choke him. Little things like snowblowing and shoveling. We have FOUR adult children here! If they don’t race to get it done before he gets home he does it himself. No amount of complaining from me makes a difference.
He’s been trying to talk his doctors into fusing the worst three vertebrae together. They’ve explained over and over that this is a recipe for disaster and eventually a wheel chair for him. The last appointment he asked if they could just remove those nerves that are making him miserable. The back pain he can deal with, the shooting pains down his leg, his leg randomly giving out on him… not so much.
I don’t know that I would exactly label him a workaholic, but when he got out of the military he took the first job that called him back. He was off less than two weeks. We would have been better off financially if he would have waited. Between his unemployment and savings in daycare and transportation costs we were rolling in money compared to his military wages. We haven’t taken an actual vacation in years. He takes his vacation time moving our daughter to and from school or to complete projects around the house or for other people. I cannot remember the last time he spent 24 hours just relaxing.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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