Sad Spouse, I relate.

Being with a partner who is severely depressed is like walking through a forest of glass and trying to break anything while at the same time, trying not to get cut.

I love my partner, but I am tired of hearing how much better I would be without her. I am tired of her clinging to me out of need, but not really taking any productive steps, beyond medication and occasional therapy, to help herself recover. I am so tired of feeling like everything I do contributes to her depression, because I am functioning and it makes her feel guilty. I'm tired.

I love her and I am sure I sound bitter and angry. I am right now. We have days that are perfect. I don't understand how she can be fine for days and then crash. Her most recent episode was brought on by her reaction to me expressing that maybe we were paying to much for our kitchen remodel. This triggered her to spiral down into the "I don't make enough money" pit. I can't get her out.

Right now, she is apologizing over and over because she fell asleep in her chair and her soda spilled a little.

I don't want to leave her, and likely won't. We have a son. But I am losing my ability to cope.

I feel you. I hope things get better for us all.