I sent an email to my T to kinda address this issue. This is the response I got. At first I was aggravated, but I had my husband read it, and he thinks her response was spot on. What do you guys think?

"People are built to have feelings and to express them. In a perfect world our feelings would be understood and validated by the people in our lives."

"When you develop in an environment that does not validate or encourage you, then your tendency is to shut down. When you start allowing your feelings to surface it is scary and hard because you are not use to them."

"Talking through them and feeling them is vital to healing and growing. You will feel pain, but also relief. You just have to acknowledge that it is ok for you to attend therapy and stop fighting it."

"You deserve to heal just like anyone else. And no, you don't have to be 'messed up' to be in therapy."

"My boundary regarding touching is that I generally don't touch. It is just what I'm comfortable with."