I am so sorry this happened. I am sure your house being damaged and all the other effects of the hurricane has not helped anyone with their mental well being.

It does seem that possibly you both have some issues with anger. I also understand that it is devastating to be afraid of your daughter. I don't know what may be causing her behavior but it may be beneficial if both of you saw a t to help work through what you are going through. Good luck and I hope things work out well.