CW: I decided (with a lot of talk and consideration from my boyfriend and docs) that having my own biological children would probably not be best for me. So I will not be having biological children. That being said - I do have 2 beautiful step-daughters (twin 9 yr olds). They are with us every other weekend, rotating holidays, and summer vacation. It is not easy and I do struggle with it. However, those girls are what make me get up every day and try to be a better person. They give me the strength to change myself and be a better mom to them. I do worry that I may mass on some of the BPD traits to them. But my BF is very good at stepping in and helping out. My own daughter is very perceptive and will ask all the time how my day is going, and can tell if I'm down. At first it was hard on me b/c I was like "oh my she sees this and is trying to be a mom to me, like i was to "my mom"." but now I don't see it like that. She is just concerned. She has opened up to me more about how she feels sad sometimes for no reason and other stuff. I try to give her ideas of how to deal with those feelings from what I have learned.

OK I'm rambling. I think it's up to you and a very personal decision to make. Mine was not based soley on the BPD diagnosis. I do think that when you know you have an issue that it makes you more aware and you work harder to NOT pass it to your children and to be there for them.