What I try to do is stop thinking about the wreckage of the past. I apologize to those I've wronged and try to do better today. Actually, anti-depressant medication (Wellbutrin and Effexor) made huge changes, not only by lifting depression but a number of my bpd symptoms vanished. For example, my anger is greatly diminished and while I feel the emotion, I can choose whether voice it, act on it. I rarely experience abandonment and if it pops up, I know it's bpd and don't take it personally. So, improvement is certainly possible There is hope