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Originally Posted by salukigirl
Your daughter shouldn't be in a situation like that. Have you tried to talk to the police or protective services about it? Using an innocent child as leverage to get what you want is so disgusting to me. Is there anyone who could attest for her behavior? She sounds narcissistic, manipulative and frankly, insane. I really hope you talk to someone who can save your daughter from her. I don't even want to think of the things she is doing or saying in front of her.
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Thank you for your response. I hope I don't sound too much like I'm defending her with this message, but for my own and my daughter's sake I've had to separate who she was then and what happened to me with who she is now. She's not better in every way, but she has become more stable over time. It's been over a dozen years since this happened.
She was the least stable while she was pregnant and afterward. I'm convinced she had some sort of hormonal issue combined with childhood abuse and after giving birth, postpartum depression. I stayed with her after the incident I described above out of fear, eventually out of trying to work things out for my daughter. We couldn't work it out and she refused to seek any sort of help. I took steps to protect my daughter then and had custody for a few years. Eventually, I lost custody when my marriage to my ex-wife ended. That's another story altogether.
Objectively speaking, I have to recognize she isn't a completely incompetent or bad parent for my daughter to have turned out as well as she has. But, you are certainly right that she still behaves in ways and says things that are inappropriate.
I could just be bargaining with myself because I feel guilty about not being able to do more to protect my daughter. I tried my absolute best.