My situation is kind of similar ... our family moved on very short notice when i was very young, and I was never taken back to that area or associated with our relatives again. For all these years i thought something must have happened with one of my sisters, but one day not too long ago, I was telling a friend of this story and he asked if sisters ever went back there. Oh yes, they went a couple times a year, but there was always some reason that I couldn't go, like when I was older and at college, my folks would just let me know that they had been back there for a visit or a funeral and that I didn't need to know or go.

That made me realize that the "involvement" was probably with me, and having that thought did make me remember some incidents that would not be considered appropriate (pvt me if you want details) ... anyway I think some episodes have been blanked out of my mind, and there's no one that I can ask about it.

good luck to you in dealing with this, jsut wanted to let you know that you're not alone