I'm sorry that your husband is depressed. Kinda like that Cymbalta commercial:
"Who does depression hurt? Everyone."

Depression is so hard, from the inside and the outside. I've been (clinically atypical) depressed, and my husband...goes through depressed moods. Please take care of yourself. Include him as much as he is able, but don't sell yourself short if he's not up with you.

If he feels anything like I did, he's not trying to make you angry or annoyed or irritated, even if it feels that way. Depression is like having sunglasses on your soul in the middle of the night. I didn't want everyone to get upset with me, but I didn't know how not to be upset myself.
And I know that doesn't help you be not upset. You feel what you feel and feelings just are. But if you can, remind yourself that this isn't about you. Do what you need to do to be ok.
Go buy some cheap plates and a shower curtain at Goodwill, take 'em out to the garage and smash plates for a few minutes. It helps with frustration and anger sometimes.

Best thoughts and wishes for you!