I may be very jaded because of my own experiences with similar situations. Some people will say anything they think you want to hear in order to get what they want. I was in a long distance relationship with a man nine years older than me. In the beginning when he was pursuing me he was extremely supportive of me saying how much he admired me for going back to school. Everything I said I wanted or liked he did too. I thought this is my perfect mate. Six months into the relationship cracks started showing...he lied about his divorce being finalized, he had financial problems. He would always say how much he loved me and I fell for his lines. He also had a bad relationship with his alcoholic abusive father which I thought he had overcome....wrong! I ended up moving in and marrying him. Six months later after he had gone through all of my education money he started abusing me physically and emotionally. It took me seven years to get out of that relationship. I'm telling you this because I hope you will realize long distance relationships can turn into your worst nightmare. I knew only what he wanted me to know, only the people he wanted me to meet. If he had lived close I could run into people that knew him for a long time and had history with him. After my ex husband abused me the second time I called his sister and she said Oh no I didn't think he would do that to you! He almost killed his first wife and convinced his sister that he abused his wife because she was so stupid! At the end of our relationship he told me that if I was stupid enough to believe his lies I deserved to be lied to! I wasted seven precious years that I can never get back that did terrible emotional damage. Another thing I haven't noticed anyone comment on is that you will not be the same person at 25 as you are at 17. Your tastes can change. You may like being submissive but after a few years may want something different. I am not judging your sexual preferences. I like a take charge kind of man that is a little dominate sexually in a playful kind of way that can also handle me taking charge from time to time. Your age and the distance thing are more of a red flag to me along with his statement about you going to school which gave me a flashback of what my ex had said to me. Good luck.