I have gone through so many things in my life where I trusted people & have been completely hurt & even ended up being in the middle of a trauma because of my trust.....you would think that trust would be the last thing I would ever feel after all I have experienced, but NOOOOO, I still seem to trust first before I find out that I can't trust.....I just take a lot more care with my things......& even with my things, I find that I am not as careful as I should be. Not sure why I don't overreact the way I would think I would be doing after all my bad experiences.....I have learned much from them, but just not to "not trust anyone". I have always given people the benefit of the doubt before reacting & know that people definitely take advantage of people who are nice......but I have always felt the need to treat people the way I want to be treated......then take it from there when they prove that I can't.

You would have thought that I would have learned not to trust anyone & make them prove their trust worthiness before I trust.....but it takes so much effort to make someone prove that you can trust them.....it doesn't take any effort for them to prove that I can't.....but when I start hearing excuse after excuse....the first excuse is at least now a red flag & the next excuse is when my trust leaves. It is definitely difficult to read some people......but boy, when they cross the line.....they really get an ear full.

I'm still dealing with the guy that took my money for fencing my farm & I took him to small claims & won the judgment against him along with interest & the judge told me that if I wanted, I could file a criminal charge against him. I am trying very hard to be understanding about his situation, thinking that if I were is the same situation that I would hope that the person would be understanding also rather than having me thrown into jail for not paying back the money by the time I really want it back. I figure that once the weather warms up & the jobs he said he has lined up start being possible to work on he will start paying me......if he doesn't at that point, at least I have the criminal charges to hold over his head & will definitely take that action at that point. I hate to think that people take advantage of my being nice to them.....I just seem to draw my line much farther out than many others do...which is what gets me into trouble many times......but I always hope that if I were is a similar situation that other person would be as understanding. Somehow that never happens.....but at least I can feel better about myself then if I didn't treat others the way I would hope to be treated. Just don't push me past that point.....or they end up with a tiger on their tail.

I have tried so many times to take people who have wronged me to court or turned them over to the police & nothing ever happens.....that also is very discouraging or they end up being judgment proof & there is nothing I can do about the loss. Trust in doing business with people is definitely something I have learned the hard way & am completely leery now......have to have tons of recommendations before I even consider to hire someone, but stopping my trust in everyone to start with is just impossible for me to do