You cannot find your identity through the eyes of others, as perfect as people may present themselves to you... we are all broken, flawed, beings, bumbling and stumbling our way through this journey called life. If you're waiting to hear someone say "OK littlemistaka, you're thin enough to hang with me" what happens to you if that person suddenly decides that he will now make his guidlines a little more strict and you're again outside of his acceptance bracket. YOU MUST KNOW WHO YOU ARE!!!! no one should be able to dictate that for you...My intent in this message is not to come down on you...I can relate to you because I have lived most of my 40year life in isolation, away from the judgements of others...and it all stemmed from my abuse as a child. It is only in recent years the I have come to know God, And in recent months I am truly beginning to know spiritually what He says about me "I am fearfully and wonderfully made" "I am the apple of His eye" these things are finally sinking into my soul and it sure feel good. We cannot construct our identities through the acceptance of others, some of us (being damaged by life experiences) cannot even trust our own thoughts as it pertains to how we view ourselves. But this I do know..The word of God and what He says about me is my anchor. It is the same yesterday, today and forever!! GOD IS FIGHTING TO KEEP YOU IN THIS WORLD!