hi, distressed,

how to stop what others say from sticking in your head? i find that exercise helps a lot. the physical aspect of exercise can help supercede the thoughts in your head, especially a sporting activity in which you have to focus / concentrate to play well. alternatively, i've had success with prayer also (though not so much with meditation even though many others have reported benefits from it).

for instance, if out for a walk, looking at nature or in storefront windows helps me be in the moment and focus on pleasant things rather than hear the nasty old thoughts circling in my head like vultures. when at home, music often is a great distraction (especially if it moves me emotionally) from problem thoughts. i hope this helps!