Squiggle, this is a normal thing to get angry about. People get angry when their needs aren't getting met.

I don't think that anger needs to be controlled. Anger needs to be talked about and you can't let your actions get out of control. Many people feel that the beating stuff can actually make you more angry but this is debated. I think that the best thing is talking about it and problem solving when you are angry.

The question about therapy making you angry, therapy gets you in touch with your feelings and if there is anger in there it is healthy to let it out.

You must have heard that it isn't okay to get angry while you were growing up and you still believe this. Some of us learned all sorts of unhelpful stuff while growing up.