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Originally Posted by Sannah
Squiggle, this is a normal thing to get angry about. People get angry when their needs aren't getting met.
I don't think that anger needs to be controlled. Anger needs to be talked about and you can't let your actions get out of control. Many people feel that the beating stuff can actually make you more angry but this is debated. I think that the best thing is talking about it and problem solving when you are angry.
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I have seen articles too where it questions doing stuff like using punching bags/beating things, that it doesn't really remove or resolve the anger. And I can see the truth in that....but I also find, for me, that there is a huge energy with the emotion that makes me feel like I HAVE to do something physically, to get the energy out....and the punching bag is a safe way to release that energy. Otherwise, it may come out in uncontrolled, unsafe ways.
But I think that talking it over/problem solving is so very necessary too. What if I just punch something when I'm angry but don't talk about it, don't try to find a calm way to resolve/dissolve it? Then it does stay in there, still bubbling under the surface until it's ignited again. I think just for myself anyway, both are needed together to fully deal with the anger itself and the root of the anger.