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Old Jan 08, 2011, 04:18 PM
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Originally Posted by Distressed2010 View Post
Elana,

I can't say ANYTHING TO HER. once I was trying to let her know how something really hurt me, and she just started yelling and shouting at me. How does one communicate with someone who's constantly aggressive in communication and always takes things personally and manipulates you...

Once I borrowed her belt, and she just started accusing me "oh you're gonna break it arent you? you're just using me... YOu're going to break my belt on purpose, blah blah blah"... and No she's not referencing to the past because no such thing has ever occured.

If I tell her that our relationship is bothering me, she'll just start blaming me for everything... I've just given up on that relationship alltogether.

Once I was staying at her house, and it was freezing cold this one night, and I'd forgotton my jacket in her room, it was 10 pm, she was still awake, she doesn't sleep until 1 am.. so I knocked on the door, and she freaked out and started yelling at me that I wasn't considerate and this and that. BUt what am I supposed to do?? Its so cold, I needed a jacket or I couldn't fall asleep!

I would expect her to be a little considerate and understand how cold it is and how one cannot sleep without a jacket.
Distressed,

Yes, this sounds very hard. I have the same trouble with my mother. I can't have a serious conversation with her because she ends up thinking I am trying to point out her flaws or put her down. So, I can relate. Is there any method, in India, to find a sympathetic ear to listen? Here, in the States we have a social worker or a therapist and this person sure to be confidential and offer advice. I was going to ask if there were any way for you to speak with a therapist...

Elana
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