I have issues with my husband. He doesn't understand nor wants to understand mental illness. My medications and menopause issues has decreased my libido. My husband is a good man but totally stunted emotionally. He is stoic, showing no emotions other than negative ones. A kiss from him is a quick peck. He never cuddles me. He comes home from work stressed out and is very hard to deal with. He interrogates me about every thing. When I tell him how it makes me feel he says I'm just trying to have a conversation with you and I know in his mind that is what he is trying to do. He drinks to calm down and sometimes it takes a lot. He stays in his own world watching sports but if I get involved with anything he resents it. His idea of foreplay is saying when are we going to do it? I have tried to explain how I feel but he just doesn't get it. What can I do? It has been three weeks since we have had sex. Tonight he wants to know when I am going to have sex with him. It repulses me when he talks to me like that. It is like he just ordered me to iron a pair of pants. The weird thing is when we do have sex I enjoy it. I just want romance and foreplay. I welcome your opinions/ suggestions. I am adding to this post which was originally posted in new members and was told to post it here. Someone advised me to go to couples counseling and even though I have asked for him to go and he has not wanted to I am going to ask again. I know this is an impossible issue to have a quick fix but I just wanted to put it out there. Thanks for any thoughts.