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Originally Posted by Squiggle328
It bothers me to think about my T having other clients. I know that sounds silly, but it kinda makes me jealous for some reason. I have NEVER seen another client. My T is in private practice and can do kinda what she wants to do as far as scheduling. She told me that she purposely schedules appointments so that none of us run into each other between sessions.
I have been going to her for almost 10 months. Not once, have I seen another client. It kinda made me wonder if I was the only one! I did ask her one time, out of curiousity, if she had like 15 clients or 50. She said (politely) that she could not disclose that information.
The relationship between a T and client is so complicated. I struggled for months about that. Thank goodness, I am finally at a place where I feel comfortable. I am not her best friend, she is not my mother, she is not a potential 'mate'. She is my therapist. That special person that I tell my deepest darkest secrets to. Her role is to be my safe person to go to. She provides a place for me to be myself. That is one rather great person for her to be.
I mean, how many people have that kind of person in their lives?
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I know that my T has 20 some other people with the same insurance company as me, but that's only because she told me that she learned she would not have to send in anything about medical necessity for any of us until after 30 visits this year (she said, you and the 26 others on that list....) I was like - hmmm, how many more does she have?!
But I didn't ask. It's actually really OK....
I love what you say about T's role being your 'safe' person to go to - oh yes, it is great to have someone to fill that role in your life. Someone who can be entrusted with helping you bear hard burdens or help you become free from them.....which you couldn't necessarily expect from even a best friend, a parent, a partner...
I felt from the beginning my T is someone I could have had a friendship with, under different circumstances - but she is in precisely the role I
need her to be in my life right now. And because she is filling that role, I don't need to have expectations from my husband or friends to do what a therapist is better trained to do for me or help me learn to do for myself....