Angie, take care dear one. My heart goes out to you. I am having issues as well (I went in to perimenopause at 31. Bye bye testosterone as well as oestrogen). I said to my fiance once "I almost can say that I understand erectile dysfunction. No matter how much I might "think" about it, I just can't seem to 'get it up'". Sorry for being explicit, but it was the only thing I could ever use to explain it. My doctor and I are working on ways to improve it. It is a very slow and painful process.

My man and I try to talk about it and we are better at it now, but it does still make me defensive. I was always a very "driven" person and now I just feel like a mere shadow of my former self. I used to have testosterone levels much higher than the average female, so not having it is very sad for me. Much guilt associated with it. The things I find hard when we talk about it, is that intimacy has gone as well. I mean, I have never really been an affectionate person anyway, but this is a new level of alarming. I can go months without even thinking about hugging or touching. It just never crosses my mind so I ahve to remind myself. I cook instead That is my way of showing care and affection.

Big hugs and best of luck trying to come to a resolution of sorts....

Michah