Hi Elana. This is helpful to hear. I'm doing this by myself, in truth, because my sister finds herself and her life more important--the old its easier for you and your situation story . . . but that said, I don't think my sister could do it. My mother is very adept at manipulation and destroying someone psychologically, and I think she'd really tear my sister apart. She wears me down with it, the day in and day out I'm just a bad daughter who can't do anything right routine, but she can really get into my sister's head. I have some help from my husband, but one of my biggest jobs is to keep my mother and my husband apart--because my mother spent the first entire year trying to destroy my marriage. They would get into terrible fights, but in my husband's defense, I've got 45 years of knowing what she's like and how to handle her. She would wait until he was alone and then go for the jugular, and he'd have no idea what hit him. He was the first to suggest we give up our lives and move to another state to take care of her--I told him you have no idea what you're getting into, he said how bad can it be, lol. I'm not here because she's my mother, I thought it was the right thing to do. I've been doing it a little over three years now. I am angry at my sister--not because she's not here and doesn't help, I have no problem with her not wanting to give up her life, I would just like to here her say that that's her choice . . . not that my life is less important or better suited. I am still taking the cymbalta . . . I don't know if I can see a therapist or not. Wow, I'm really rambling here . . .

Gena