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Originally Posted by Distressed2010
Elana,
I can't say ANYTHING TO HER. once I was trying to let her know how something really hurt me, and she just started yelling and shouting at me. How does one communicate with someone who's constantly aggressive in communication and always takes things personally and manipulates you...
Once I borrowed her belt, and she just started accusing me "oh you're gonna break it arent you? you're just using me... YOu're going to break my belt on purpose, blah blah blah"... and No she's not referencing to the past because no such thing has ever occured.
If I tell her that our relationship is bothering me, she'll just start blaming me for everything... I've just given up on that relationship alltogether.
Once I was staying at her house, and it was freezing cold this one night, and I'd forgotton my jacket in her room, it was 10 pm, she was still awake, she doesn't sleep until 1 am.. so I knocked on the door, and she freaked out and started yelling at me that I wasn't considerate and this and that. BUt what am I supposed to do?? Its so cold, I needed a jacket or I couldn't fall asleep!
I would expect her to be a little considerate and understand how cold it is and how one cannot sleep without a jacket.
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I can relate to how you feel because I'm from India too, Kolkata to be specific. My problems stem from relationship and trust issue but as you know it is extremely hard to find help in India for such depression oriented subjects.
I know you cannot suddenly abandon your family but maybe you should try and make online friends with similar interests. Engaging yourself in such activites can help you find your own zone without bothering to depend on your sister/mother.
Sad to hear about the Christmas incident too, I chose to stay inside myself but I can understand how it feels when you really want to be a part of things and you can't. I just hope you keep talking to us and others to help you get through your problems. Sometimes making connections and letting out all the pent up anger inside is extremely helpful.
If you want to talk, feel free to email me or get in touch with me. Hopefully, you can come out of your condition soon! I'm sure the others can also help you in several ways.