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Old Jan 10, 2011, 01:44 PM
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Originally Posted by rainbow8 View Post
I think you have to put yourself in a place where friendships can develop, though. You have to be yourself but be willing to let people in a little. It's not that others don't care. People are more isolated these days. They aren't rejecting you; they just live in their own world and don't know you're reaching out. It's not "tooting your own horn"; it's more subtle.
I have come to this realization recently, rainbow. Having social anxiety, it's really hard for me to make friends, because attracting attention is at the core of my problems! When I meet someone, it takes YEARS for me to actually call them my friend! I hate putting myself out there because I'm afraid I'll just get hurt or look too needy. *kicks a few stones down the sidewalk with my hands in my pockets*

and peaches, I totally understand what you mean about feeling lonely. It's not that people don't care. I think it's more that they just don't think. As rainbow said, the world we live in today is very different than any other time in the past. People are so "busy" and into their own lives. I often find myself being the one who has to initiate everything with others and it stresses me out, because I deal with painful shyness all the time. But I just don't want to be a loner all the time, so I have to bite the bullet. Ugh. It's so hard, isn't it? I hope things get better for you.