After 25 years, I don't care how bad things are, the idea of walking away is not really the first thing I would think of. You two obviously have somethign together or you would not have been together for so long. I actually commend you for first taking care of yourself anf making the changed in your life that you feel you need to take. And second for sticking it out for someone you love even when things are not perfect.

Have you sat down and told him exactly how you feel? How does he respond?

I guess in this case it comes down to picking your battles. You obviously love him. Does that love change because he isn't doing things that you think he should be doing? You can really only take responsibility for yourself. Perhaps in time, when he sees the changes you are making in your life, he will follow.

I'm sorry this is so rough. Relationships naturally have ups and downs but I know it hurts when things are not working out as we would like.