Ask an older friend to help you get one. I agree that it's far safer than having sex and risk falling pregnant.

I walked into a store with my partner and we discussed what we thought would sound interesting.

If you want, PM me, and I can give you a link to a very good website, that's clean and mature, teaches women about their sexuality, lots of articles, talks about the use of toys... I think a very good start for people that are genuinely interested to learn, as opposed to just stare at a typical porn site.