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Old Jan 11, 2011, 11:13 AM
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I used to think of the "ignore" option as meaning that someone doesn't like someone else... but... now having been in therapy for a few years... I see it MUCH differently.
It's NOT black and white.
just because someone has you on "ignore" does not always mean they don't like you.
it is a tool for some of us in using as self care.
someone may be always bringing some subject up that throws a particular reader back to their trauma-- it's not the posters fault.. the reader doesn't necessarily not like the poster... they may even care very much for that poster but just is not at a "firm" enough mental place to read and partake in the tone, context or attitude of the poster. It's not always a matter of liking or not liking someone-- it can be just about personal safety for the reader.
it sucks big time to be triggered to the extreme of trauma.. and some of us have learned how to self-protect.
it doesn't have to be a dis on the person ignored..... just a fragile person keeping themself safe, cool and collected....

at least that is why I would use it

I don't ever wish to "dis" anyone... but I do have to take my safety and mental anguish into my own hands and take responsiblity for myself.

I hope that made some sense or is it clear as mud?.....
"ignore" doesn't have to mean you aren't liked.
or the person is against you.

it can be just straight - self care.

fins.........
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Last edited by purple_fins; Jan 11, 2011 at 11:39 AM. Reason: typo... ugh....
Thanks for this!
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