You deserve a nap. Do you have a hard time believing that you have needs and that you have the right to meet your needs?

When my children don't do a job very well I have them repeat it. This way they know that they can't get away with doing a bad job and they learn to do it right the first time.

Parenting isn't a popularity contest. Sometimes parenting doesn't make your kids outwardly happy but it is in their best interest and they will see this later when they are adults. If a parent tries to make their children happy it will be really bad for the kids because then parenting won't occur. If the object is to make them happy this puts the children in charge and this is not good at all. It can actually stress them out because they feel the safest when the parents are in control.

Do you have a hard time not pleasing people?

Have you talked to your husband about the triangle between you, your daughter and him? Triangels with parents and children aren't good. The parents need to be a united front.

Can your husband help you determine what is going on with your daughter's health? I tend to believe my children. I don't think that children make up health problems. If they are stressed out and it is bothering their stomach, this is a real issue.

Do you think that your husband showed you what he had cleaned because he wanted praise? You think that he showed it to you to make you feel bad?