lex, i do the same has you, i immerse myself in other peoples problems, i do it to hide or escape from my own, it is/was a formular that has worked for me before, now i am just saying ***** it and doing what i want to do, dont get me wrong i still listen and talk to everybody but i have scalled it down dramatically, i dont post has often, i dont go to chat has often has i did when i first came to the site, i dont spend upwards of 20+ hours a day on here anymore, i am still around everyday/night yet i have pulled back, there are to many people on this site who take take take and never give back, there comes a time when you have to say to yourself enough is enough, and look after you.